Beauty in Simplicity

My eldest daughter introduced me to paper quilling when she asked for my help with a project. We didn’t have any tools or materials so we had to improvise.. cut the paper manually, made our own tool using the wood part of a cotton ear bud.. followed the design in YouTube. We chose to do a butterfly. For a first attempt and with limited resources I think we did pretty well.

We really enjoyed it a lot that I ordered materials and tools online. So we got the pre-cut paper strips of various colors, the quilling needle and other tools, and started a project together with my 2 girls. The idea is we do random quilling and stick it to a paper until we fill it up. We will do 1 piece or more a day and stick it randomly and just see how it will turn out. Then maybe we can frame it and display it . More importantly, this will be a joint effort with my girls. Quilling is simple, but put together, something beautiful comes out.

Doing projects together are what really are retained in our kids minds. It’s that special time you spend together laughing, figuring things out. And with today’s technology these can all be documented and someday look back and reminisce.

In relation to this, about 7 years ago, I created individual email accounts for my kids and in there I email all beautiful memories I have with them. Pictures, letters, events, so that one day when they are older, I plan to give them the login and password and surprise them . Maybe on their 18th birthday or when they get married, I haven’t decided yet. ( oh wait.. I wonder if my daughter is following my blog…. this kinda is a spoiler …)

So parents out there.. let’s create memories with our kids!

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“Don’t cut your hair”

An unedited version of what my 12 year old daughter wrote, an argument to convince me to allow her to cut her hair shorter than it already is-

“Don’t cut your hair, you will look like a boy..” Those are words coming from my parents. To be female does it mean to be fragile, pretty, and girly? To be male does it mean to be strong, brave, and independent? To be a girl does it mean we are vulnerable to the eyes of the world? Where does the phrase “Man up!” , “don’t be such a girl!”Come from? Well in the 20th century people like feminists (independence)who wish for equality among men. But before we had to follow societies unspoken rules for both genders. Women had to marry to survive, women had to look pretty and act ‘ladylike’ to keep their social status, women couldn’t work for a living only do the household chores, women didn’t have the right to vote, women were rarely accused for crimes. In old fairytales the damsel in distress is always a

Pretty princess in a dress. They couldn’t do anything for themselves and had to wait for their prince and charming. But now our society practices equality amongst genders. But still the unspoken rules are followed. Things like sexism is still alive in our corrupted society. My mom said “god created females because we are supposed to look and act like one?” Tell me, what is it to act like a female? Are we suppose to dress, eat, talk, walk, look, and run like a female? “ I believe God created females and males not because we had to follow the rules of one but for the sole reason to reproduce. God gave us choices. He didn’t tell us we have to look and act like this and that! We only started becoming ashamed after Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit. But before that was God against our exposure? No! So where

In the heck did mom get the idea that because God created us like this we had to act like this!? I know there are things we cannot change in our bodies like our regionals and and muscle structure but that’s how it is…But we can change our decisions and opinions we make because we have a choice to…our parents are our guardians that help us guide us through life. But just like life there are choices. And because our parents have lived through more years than us they have already made some decisions. Unlike us we haven’t made our decisions and so they will lead us down a path they already went through because they know what happens if you go down that path. It wasn’t our decision but theirs. But because of that we have never seen the extent of our options. Our brains are different that means we have our own opinions. But true there are some paths that need the help of our parents because it’s a path that could greatly affect our life in the future. But even so some decisions they make can greatly affect our emotional state because we have different opinions. And it is also a parents job to love us and accept us. Cutting my hair is a decision I made…But my parents see it wrong for a girl apparently…This is my argument…please think deeply into it…

The unveiling of the true source of goodness

As I was walking home from work, I saw these cute little dogs walking towards me and I can’t help but ask permission from the owner if I could take their picture to show my daughters and the kind lady consented.

Notice how one smiled for the picture!

As I walked on, I passed by a college where I usually stop by its chapel for a quick grayer. I haven’t done so for a few months already and today, I decided to stop and visit.

As I entered the adoration chapel, it isn’t the usual where my mind is filled with many thoughts of what I will be praying for. Today is different. I knew exactly what to tell Him. There is only one thought in my mind. Jesus, be the driver of my life from now on. Let me sit back now and bring me to where you want me.

All my life I have been telling the Lord the desires of my heart, what, where and when. For every crisis in my life, I pray to him for the turnout I want it to be.

I am going thru a crisis now and it is the first time that I seek spiritual guidance from a Catholic priest and from a born again Christian who happened to be my uncle. The answers I got isn’t only for my current situation but really, it hit me to the core of my heart. It is only now that I’m learning to let go and completely Trust in Him.

This journey is something I wish to share here as well.

Because as I search for goodness and beauty, I am discovering to whom all these come from.

As I was leaving the chapel , I turned back and saw this. This tranquility  that’s slowly unveiling in front of me.

The elusive good deed

Just like love, the more you seek it, the harder to find. But when you are not looking, it finds you.

Or is it because people are less likely to extend a hand these days? Are people more consumed with other matters to notice?

A few years back, as I was walking home, I saw a young man stop and help an old lady cross the street. It was such a simple gesture but it struck me, wishing I had taken a photo. That actually inspired me to do this project. I've been meaning to do this for a long time but never got to it until now. It was then that I realized there is still goodness in people. That people still care.

However these days, when I sit by a coffee shop, I try to observe and yes it's true, people are always looking down. How can they see that there might be an old lady needing help crossing the street, or someone needs assistance to open a door because her arms are full. These days, eyes are glued on phones rather than the world.

Maybe people still care… they're just too busy looking down.

A morning stroll at the park 

My kids love animals, and when I say love, I mean LOO❤️❤️❤️VVe animals. Specially my youngest.  When her pet hamster Peanut died, she cried for so many nights.  

Yesterday at the park , they saw a Chowchow and they squealed in excitement.  They ran towards the dog and it's owner and started interviewing him. The man was kind and patient enough to answer all their questions. They are curious little bees  and I was pretty sure they had tons of them.  You can see in the picture that the man was happy to answer all their questions . 

On my youngest's birthday last year, we surprised her by bringing  her to a cat cafe where you can pet and interact with all the cats and dogs inside. There were more than 20 cats inside and as much dogs as well. She literally had tears in her eyes! She was so happy she said that it was her best birthday ever! 

Challenge in finding good

I'm realizing that looking for people doing small goood deeds is difficult, specially if you look for it everyday.  I keep my eyes open , with my camera ready to click away. Though I haven't found anything so far, I'm learning to be more observant of people around me.. like while I was having tea at a coffee shop, I  had called out to a mom whose daughter's clip was hanging by the tip of the bangs, or  finding that people still keep doors open for others to pass thru, or a father playing with his kids ( through using a gadget).  I did find a book about doing good. 

Today I spent my morning with my 2 angels, walked to the nearest mall and had breakfast together at a coffee shop, spent sometime at the park nearby, then went to watch a fencing match with my eldest. 


After watching, we walked to the mall next door and did some shopping and bonding. 

In the afternoon, my youngest and I tried a new Korean cheese stuffed bread recipe which turned out pretty good! 


While I try to find good around me, let me create good.  Maybe we can challenge ourselves to do small good things everyday. It may be little but for the person we do good to, it may be life changing . 

Closest to my heart

Let me start by sharing beauty from a place and from people closest to my heart. I don't need to look far.

Today is my dad's birthday and he is 79 years old. He suffers from Alzheimer's but luckily he still remembers us, his 3 children.   It is a blessing indeed that we are still able to celebrate his birthday,  and spend time with him.

As my 2 brothers and I were discussing where  and how to celebrate his birthday, my mom texted me :


My dad asked what my gift is for him, and I teased him, LOVE.  Coincidentally my eldest brother called him and was asked the same question and he said, KISS.  Now they wonder what my other brother will give him… maybe it's HUG.  This is my family.  We are simple, yet rich in love and affection. This simplicity is the most beautiful that I can share, not just for today, but for my lifetime.

My own family is a broken one… I've separated from my husband, and I strive to show my 2 beautiful children the kind of love I experienced from my youth, and is still experiencing  now.  I want to show my kids that even when our family is not whole,  the love of a Family is still present in their lives.

Beauty from our hearts, from our home.